This really resonates. In the days following my mother’s sudden death, a “friend” who fits a lot of what you’ve described here kept demanding my sympathy and attention for complete BS… like the death (not sudden) of a person she’d never met, the friend of a Facebook friend. (Hello….my mom just died? ) Or for a big fight she picked with her mild and very tolerant spouse. (She can make up with him. I can never hug my mother again.) Tired of her complaints that she was “not in a good headspace,” I told her I was drowning in grief and didn’t have the capacity to deal with anyone else’s “headspace.” I haven’t heard a peep from her since. We used to be in contact several times a week. It’s now going on 3 months of radio silence. Honestly, it’s a relief.