I made the mistake of asking my NPD (I’m beginning to suspect) cousin this question when she cancelled coming over for Thanksgiving with her go-to “my husband is sick!” I was mid Thanksgiving prep but offered to help if they needed something like OTC meds or chicken soup. She responded with “Can you deliver my Poshmark package to the post office?”

She knows how long the post office line is the day before Thanksgiving.

That was the last time I ever asked her if she needed anything. In the last year I’ve downgraded her from “How can I help?” to “I’m sorry to hear that” to “Thanks for letting me know.”